Self-Care Isn’t Selfish: Why Prioritizing Yourself Is Essential for Helping Pet Parents and Dogs.

from the desk of Michael Overlie, I.C.P. Instructor, accompanied by his Belgium Shepherd

Introduction

In a world that glorifies productivity, it’s easy to see self-care as a luxury, something only

reserved for moments when everything else has been taken care of. Yet, the truth is, self-care

isn’t selfish. It’s foundational. If you’re someone who constantly gives—whether to animals,

family, friends, or even your career—learning to prioritize yourself might feel counterintuitive.

But imagine how much more you could give if you weren’t running on empty. By taking the time

to care for ourselves, we actually gain more energy, compassion, and resilience to share with

others.

The Caregiver Dilemma

For those of us drawn to caring professions—whether you’re a paramedic, a teacher, an animal

advocate, or a parent—the desire to help others is a driving force. But there’s a silent struggle

many caregivers face: the nagging feeling of burnout, emotional fatigue, and even resentment. In

my work with caregivers, I see this common pattern: compassion fatigue sneaks in when self-

care isn’t a priority. Over time, this lack of balance can erode not only our effectiveness but our

well-being.

Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish

One of the most common fears around self-care is the idea that it’s somehow “selfish.” Yet, when

we neglect our own needs, we gradually drain ourselves, compromising our ability to support

those who rely on us. Self-care, at its core, is about filling our cup so that we can continue to

pour into others. It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask first in an emergency—only then are

you truly equipped to help others effectively.

Dogs as Our Self-Care Partners

Dogs model self-care better than we might think. They eat when they’re hungry, sleep when

they’re tired, and play with joyful abandon. They don’t overthink it. Dogs remind us that it’s

okay to take breaks, to listen to our bodies, and to find joy in simple moments. When we connect

with our dogs, we’re often reminded of how easy self-care can be. Taking a few minutes to walk

outside with your dog, for example, can help you reconnect with yourself while also providing a

natural mental break.

Practical Self-Care Tips

Here are a few ways to make self-care a consistent part of your life:

1. Mindful Breathing: Start your day with a few minutes of deep breathing, allowing

yourself to center and reconnect with your intentions.

2. Nature Breaks with Your Dog: Take short nature breaks with your dog. Use these

moments not just to exercise them, but to enjoy fresh air, sunshine, and the chance to

reset.

3. Reflective Journaling: Try asking yourself, “What am I giving today, and what am I

receiving?” This helps identify areas where you might be overextending and reminds you

to make room for replenishment.

Conclusion

Self-care is the foundation of a life that allows us to support others meaningfully. By honoring

our needs, we build a foundation of resilience, patience, and compassion that enhances all our

relationships. Next time you feel guilty about taking time for yourself, remember: a well-cared-

for heart is capable of caring for others deeply and sustainably.